Since I was a teenager teens have loved to share photos. Capturing moments and sharing memories has usually been a source of joy. Photos are after all intended to capture history, lovely moments and times spent together. They are also intended to bring a bit of happiness to the viewers, correct?
I recently asked a class of 15 graduate students how many of them knew someone who had been date raped. To my dismay, the majority of the class raised their hands. As I raised my own hand I saw quick flashes of the young women who have shared their stories with me dating back to my own college days where I knew more than a couple of young women who had lived through such trauma. The majority of these women had suffered predominantly in silence; overcome by shame, embarrassment, and even guilt.
Spring is just days away and that means that many of your teens will be trying out for sports teams. I have spoken to many parents who are afraid of their teen's reaction if they don't make the team. Of course, there are many things that you can do to help console your teen if they don't make the team but today I'd like to address this issue in a more proactive manner.
Let me explain myself. Teens do better and have better self-esteem if you praise their efforts rather than global personality characteristics. So, you just might want to get in the habit of saying things like "You tried really hard" rather than "You are a great athlete." You see if the teen then doesn't make the team they will be more likely to see it as a temporary setback rather than as an indication of a personal failure.
This is true across the board. Kids whose parents focus on praising efforts rather than on saying things like "You are brilliant, beautiful, a great athlete etc. have kids who can manage disappointment better.
Good luck to all of you and to your tireless teens!
Valentine’s Day is a fun very Americanized holiday that gives us an opportunity to celebrate the one we love. Of course not everyone partakes in this particular celebration. In addition to features and articles on how to have a wonderful V-day, magazines and talk shows often offer advice to members of the lonely hearts club. The positive side of being single is celebrated. These features are usually focused on adults.
From good girls to mean girls, jocks, geeks, Goths, Emos, and everything in between, one of the major tasks for most teens is learning how to survive the social scene. As a parent it can be difficult and at times even painful to stand on the sidelines and watch as your teen negotiates the social system.